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Leveraging Your Influence Using NVC – 2014 East Coast Program – Retreat 1

April 4 / 2014 - April 9 / 2014


Can you imagine living NVC so fully that all the people you meet each day are affected by its profound gifts?

Can you imagine being your most powerful, loving, and authentic self in every moment and feeling excited to bring that freedom to everyone around you?

This program features two immersion-learning retreats practicing visionary leadership with Miki Kashtan with an additional day and a half (per retreat) for participants in a Leadership in Facilitation

2014 Dates

Retreat 1: April 4 – 9/10
Retreat 2: November 7 – 12/13

About the Program

The vision of Leveraging Your Influence is to accelerate the transition to a needs-based world by actively integrating the three aspects of nonviolence — love, truth, and courage – into the very fabric of our everyday lives so they can serve as the foundation and organizing principle of our relationships and work in the world.

To ‘leverage our influence’ is to access our own power and capacity for visionary leadership; to lead by example with care and empathy in service of creating a world that serves life; at home, at work, in whatever context. We do this by being ready to transform conflict into deeper mutual understanding; to build effective collaborations (and stronger families, communities, and organizations); and to manifest our vision for ourselves and the world in creative ways that consider the needs of all.

Each retreat delves deeply into two major learning areas:

The first focuses on building up the internal foundations that make it possible for us to step into leadership in all areas of life: self-acceptance, acceptance, vulnerability, inner freedom, choice, and power. In addition to illuminating instruction and discussion, we explore body-based and gesture-based exercises that help you access self-connection and self-empathy to move toward action – even while carrying limiting beliefs, facing obstacles, or experiencing pain.

The second explores the practical aspects of visionary leadership: engaging with others in authentic and caring ways; expressing power and care in group settings; and creating change in ever-growing circles in society and culture at-large – with the purpose of meeting the most needs for the most people. We focus on real-life situations in which using NVC can move us and our environment closer to the dream of a needs-based world, and practice expressing this consciousness more spontaneously, authentically, and naturally, in contexts and language relevant to you.

Miki’s leadership and the co-creative learning experience: The experience of each gathering is co-created by Miki and all the participants. Miki aims to model her vision of collaborative leadership, including occasionally functioning as a member of the community, inviting others to hold the whole. Much of the time, leading this group means attending to the emerging needs of participants in real-time and harnessing that energy to support the goals of the program. Participants contribute real-life issues and all are invited into a radical level of honesty and vulnerability around learning goals, shared leadership, feedback, and issues of money, inclusion, and potentially different levels of commitment to living nonviolence.


  • Immersion learning in a co-created environment that encourages and requests self-connection and stepping into leadership
  • Exercises that help you access self-connection and self-empathy to move toward action and leadership
  • Role-plays and coaching that build your capacity to speak from your heart and (1) build trust and connection in difficult conversations, (2) generate willingness to collaborate in groups, and (3) experience freedom to want what you want fully and stay committed to strategies that work for all when seeking change
  • Focus on naturalizing NVC to contexts relevant to you and expanding the application of NVC beyond the specific focus on any particular forms of speech
  • Facilitators’ track and personalized coaching from Miki
  • Access to a growing community of compassionate change-makers and ongoing support for leveraging your influence in the world.

New! Leadership in Facilitation Track (FT)

Individuals with special interest in leading groups and organizations collaboratively and from a spirit of service are invited to register for the Facilitation Track. During lunchtime meetings, Miki shares insights about the visionary leadership that she models, and offers coaching, tips, and advice on how to balance holding all needs with efficient, effective, and purposeful engagement. This track also includes additional time with Miki, along with one-on-one and group coaching, with a focus on immediate opportunities to apply new learning and share leadership with Miki in this retreat by facilitating activities, supporting the design team, and helping to shape the flow day-to-day. This level of involvement and service is a primary opportunity to deepen the co-creative learning experience and to practice the living interdependence of NVC.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT Leveraging Your Influence

“Through BayNVC’s Leveraging Your Influence program, I have become clearer about what I want and have stepped into my power to move towards my vision. I have connected with others and acquired many of the skills/resources needed.” – A.M.

“LYI was a safe space for me to uncover my blocks and work through them with support and transformative exercises.” – E.S.

“This project taps into me continuing to be me!” – G. S.

“I so enjoyed Miki’s perspectives on power & leadership, her distinctions and clarity — I feel inspired to know a way to live that feels more whole and connected.”

“Miki shared verbally and also modeled many things every day that I hope to take into my life as empowering learnings, questions to explore, ways of seeing… There is not enough space here to say even 5% of what I have received…” – P.K.

“I feel and see the benefits of participating in LYI and learning with Miki every single day, in the way that I relate to myself, and in the ways that I’m more empowered, loving, and a little more brave in the world. The way that Miki teaches and models visionary leadership, love and power in action, is a profound gift.” – U. L.

“There were things offered here on this retreat that I have found nowhere else and that may enable me to do things and have healing in myself, healing I have sought fruitlessly in other contexts for the better part of forty years.” – S.S.

“Miki Kashtan makes NVC accessible, interesting, and broadly applicable. She has opened my mind and heart in life changing ways.” – L.B.

“The learning impacted me on many levels and was so rich. I didn’t learn about just one topic. I was being taught how to live, from my source.” – J.D.

“I love being in a community where everyone’s gifts are celebrated, where we have a chance to stretch in ways that fully bring us to life.” -R.W.

“Miki’s teaching and example of what’s possible for humanity offers beyond the expected, beyond the obvious to a world undiscovered that beckons us to reach for the moon.” – S.P

Related Course Costs:

Room and board costs are in addition to the tuition amount.These are non-negotiable and required by our host venue.

Single room & board $105/day or $525 for retreat (5 nights)
Shared room & board $95/day or $475 for retreat (5 nights)
Commuter $50/day or $250 for retreat (5 days)

Room assignments are subject to availability. If you plan to stay the extra night for the facilitator track, or if you want to arrive the night before due to travel, addition fees apply at the same rates. Roommates can be requested or will be assigned. Accommodations include delicious vegetarian meals.

Limited work-trade opportunities are available for room and board only. Please contact Amalae McCloud at the Abode directly: 518-794-8090, ext 115.

Course Manual

An electronic version of the Program Booklet (~180+ pgs) will be emailed in advance. A hard copy will be printed for participants new to LYI-East at a cost of $20 unless you request otherwise. Some participants elect to save paper and the cost of printing by bringing the booklet with them on an electronic device.

How to Register

(Part 1) Click on the “Register Now” button at the top of the page to submit a minimum $50 tuition deposit to hold your space in the course. You may also submit more than the $50 minimum at this time. Online payments go towards tuition for the course. (Room and board payments are handled separately.)

(Part 2) Once you have made your deposit, you will receive a confirmation email from BayNVC with a link to a short form requesting further information. Once this form is completed, you will be registered.

See BayNVC’s policy re: cancellations and refunds here

If you have questions about the course, we are happy to talk with you. Email Sarah

Informational Q&A Calls

Consider joining us for an informal Q&A on the following dates. You’re invited to bring questions about the course, facilitation track, logistics, teaching-learning styles, etc. Members of the design/organizing team will host these calls; Miki Kashtan will not be on these calls. Past LYI-E participants are invited to call in and may provide additional perspective too!

Sunday, February 23, 2014 from 10:00 – 11:00 AM EST
Sunday, March 2, 2014 from 10:00 -11:00 AM EST
Monday, March 17, 2014 from 8:00 – 9:00 PM EST

Requested Experience

This program is open all, at any level of experience with Nonviolent Communication. We ask that you self-select to attend based on your resonance with (1) the belief that the vision described above can transform your life and the world and (2) a desire within you to play an active role in that transformation.

Requested Contribution

$50 minimum deposit towards tuition will hold your space. The full requested tuition contribution (not including room-and-board) is $850 for the regular retreat or $1100 for the Facilitation Track (an additional 1.5 days). These amounts, on average for each of the 25 participants (15 for the facilitation track) is based on our desire to maximize accessibility and sustainability at once. This means making this program available to all who want it while also prioritizing sufficient income to support Miki’s ability to attend to her own livelihood and the livelihoods of the team of people supporting her work. The requested amount is also designed to cover the out-of-pocket expenses of holding the retreat (e.g. meeting spaces and airfare).

If you would like to learn more about this, read about the gift economy here. Also, If you are unable to contribute the amount you would like by the time of the retreat, we will be happy to arrange a payment plan with you. Since the links below are generic, we ask that you click the above link, which is specific to the LYI East program.

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