Click here to read Richard House’s review published in Association for Humanistic Psychology’s Self & Society Journal, Volume 49 No.1 Spring 2021.

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Coercion, Shaming, Mulberry Trees, and Babies

Coercion, Shaming, Mulberry Trees, and Babies
June 14 / 2024 In 2020, when Emma Quayle and I started vagabonding in earnest, one of our criteria for what we wanted our next steps to be as we journeyed further was “unmasking the impact of patriarchy and allowing us to experience first-hand the intensity of its manifestation.”

Why Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests Are Both Enough and Not

Why Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests Are Both Enough and Not
March 9 / 2024 Observations, feelings, needs, and requests, which many of us within the NVC network end up referring to as OFNR, are some of the most basic building blocks of NVC. Within the circles of people who study and practice NVC, a divergence exists about whether these elements are enough

Moral Anguish, Human Nature, and “White Fragility”

Moral Anguish, Human Nature, and “White Fragility”
September 27 / 2023 The actual felt experience of moral anguish as I understand it is entirely different from shame, guilt, or defensiveness. Having experienced it myself and seen and accompanied others, I know it to be soft, wrenching, and entirely open-hearted.

“Some Things Are Just Wrong…” Or Are They?

“Some Things Are Just Wrong…”  Or Are They?
May 9 / 2023 Sometimes NVC is wholly dismissed by some people precisely because of this. If we are not going to say that rape, or murder, or racism, or Nazism, or communism, or child trafficking, or whatever the person in front of us believes is wrong, then we are wishy washy nonsense, says the person and walks away in a huff.

What Does It Take to Reach People? The Power of Perspective Taking as a Bridge to the Soul

What Does It Take to Reach People? The Power of Perspective Taking as a Bridge to the Soul
April 9 / 2023 Perspective taking is usually defined as being able to understand how another person sees the world: what story they will tell themselves about this or that situation; how they will explain to themselves why they are doing something