Coercion, Shaming, Mulberry Trees, and Babies

Coercion, Shaming, Mulberry Trees, and Babies
June 14 / 2024 In 2020, when Emma Quayle and I started vagabonding in earnest, one of our criteria for what we wanted our next steps to be as we journeyed further was “unmasking the impact of patriarchy and allowing us to experience first-hand the intensity of its manifestation.”

Why Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests Are Both Enough and Not

Why Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests Are Both Enough and Not
March 9 / 2024 Observations, feelings, needs, and requests, which many of us within the NVC network end up referring to as OFNR, are some of the most basic building blocks of NVC. Within the circles of people who study and practice NVC, a divergence exists about whether these elements are enough

Moral Anguish, Human Nature, and “White Fragility”

Moral Anguish, Human Nature, and “White Fragility”
September 27 / 2023 The actual felt experience of moral anguish as I understand it is entirely different from shame, guilt, or defensiveness. Having experienced it myself and seen and accompanied others, I know it to be soft, wrenching, and entirely open-hearted.

“Some Things Are Just Wrong…” Or Are They?

“Some Things Are Just Wrong…”  Or Are They?
May 9 / 2023 Sometimes NVC is wholly dismissed by some people precisely because of this. If we are not going to say that rape, or murder, or racism, or Nazism, or communism, or child trafficking, or whatever the person in front of us believes is wrong, then we are wishy washy nonsense, says the person and walks away in a huff.

What Does It Take to Reach People? The Power of Perspective Taking as a Bridge to the Soul

What Does It Take to Reach People? The Power of Perspective Taking as a Bridge to the Soul
April 9 / 2023 Perspective taking is usually defined as being able to understand how another person sees the world: what story they will tell themselves about this or that situation; how they will explain to themselves why they are doing something

From Philanthropy to De-Accumulation

From Philanthropy to De-Accumulation
March 9 / 2023 The path towards flow is simple and immensely difficult: shedding what we have accumulated and restoring trust in natural abundance after having broken it to create artificial surplus and manufactured scarcity; uncoupling giving from receiving and restoring trust in each other’s capacity for gifting after millennia of exchange; and releasing control and restoring trust in ourselves and our capacity to face hardship after being habituated to fixing every little discomfort with money and technology.

Feminism as Power and Love: Realigning Humanity with Life

Feminism as Power and Love: Realigning Humanity with Life
March 2 / 2023 In this article, I present a feminist vision of a global maternal gift economy and pathways to moving towards it from where we currently are, in the grip of patriarchal systems and conditioning.

A Love Letter to My Brothers

A Love Letter to My Brothers
January 6 / 2023 What I want, what I am putting all my efforts into, is to create, with others, a field of love strong enough to surround the patriarchal field. To surround patriarchy with love. Because nothing else will do.

Beyond Horizontalism:
Co-creation within a Led Field

Beyond Horizontalism:<br>Co-creation within a Led Field
October 23 / 2022 The overall phenomenon is the way that so many of us relate to pockets of high capacity and of leadership as being at odds with co-creation.

Nonviolent Resistance in the Face of Hostility: Walking towards Conflict with Care for All

Nonviolent Resistance in the Face of Hostility: Walking towards Conflict with Care for All
September 7 / 2022 More often than not it’s the gap between stories that fuels conflicts, not the needs themselves that parties to conflict have, nor even their different strategies for attending to needs.