States, Collective Wellbeing, and Our Future

States, Collective Wellbeing, and Our Future
April 11 / 2021 States are a patriarchal invention, not a natural given about humans. They were created early on within the establishment of patriarchal forms.

The Practice of Mourning Challenges: an Example from a Visit to Israel

The Practice of Mourning Challenges:  an Example from a Visit to Israel
March 1 / 2021

Mourning is an act of softening. It supports us in softly closing the gap between what we want, envision, or long for, and what actually exists. In the absence of mourning, we are likely to try to do it with some degree of force: either by trying to force ourselves …

How Children Learn About Others’ Needs

How Children Learn About Others’ Needs
February 25 / 2021

In contemporary, patriarchal societies, mothering often leads to mothers giving up on their own needs, because of the lack of a communal context of togetherness and support. One of the results of this is that, as children, we don’t learn about the needs of others as an organic limit we …

Needs Choreography and Mutual Influencing: Decoding the Flow of Interdependence

Needs Choreography and Mutual Influencing: Decoding the Flow of Interdependence
February 8 / 2021

“I would like to end this conversation now and focus elsewhere. Is there anything else you want to share before I do that?” This is a simple question, so simple you may wonder why I would start a blog post with it. I chose to start with it, because it …

The Trouble with Mourning

The Trouble with Mourning
February 2 / 2021 Mourning is our most important integrative movement, but it can be so elusive to find the way to do it.

Apart and Together: Mending the Tear

Apart and Together: Mending the Tear
January 6 / 2021

According to my initial plan, this piece would not have been written. The original project included nine pieces: an introduction, and eight peeks into one area after another that the Coronavirus crisis has exposed for us to dig into, see what may have been hidden before, to understand better how …

Apart and Together: Finding Collective Wisdom to Move into a Future for All

Apart and Together: Finding Collective Wisdom to Move into a Future for All
December 30 / 2020

In 1961, at five, in a conversation with my mother, I was working out what to say, as a future prime minister, to all the prime ministers of the world. In 2017, with the same global passion and a larger vision, I convened a group from several continents to submit …

Apart and Together: Reengaging with the Full Range of Our Emotions

Apart and Together: Reengaging with the Full Range of Our Emotions
November 19 / 2020

“There is a great deal of pain in life and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain.” – R. D. Laing

The appearance of the current Coronavirus, and the major disruptions that both the pandemic and the responses to …

Responding to Breakdown of Trust in Police

Responding to Breakdown of Trust in Police
October 28 / 2020

“The belief that if you don’t do “anything wrong” you would never be bothered by the police is deeply entrenched in many places, especially in those countries where the dominant population believes that country to be democratic, which many do. It’s extremely difficult to show: anyone who is not in …

Apart and Together: Blurring the Distinction between Public and Private Spheres

Apart and Together: Blurring the Distinction between Public and Private Spheres
October 28 / 2020

“The personal is political” was one of the rallying cries of second-wave feminism in the US. As much as this slogan has been contested and put to different uses, it came to my mind as I sat down to write this piece (the 7th in my “Apart and Together” series …